One of the best places to meet the Cougar is a dating site. Here are 10 things you never say / ask when you contact the Cougar online.
1st How old are you? – Does it even need be said? You’re either interested in her or not. Did it really matter how old she is, if you think it’s hot?
2nd Hi / How are you? – One word or one line e-mail you anywhere. About 50% of pups that are now on-line access to make this mistake. What percentage of my answer? 0%. If you send an e-Cougar for the first time and that’s all I have to say to yourself, good luck.
3rd You look good for her age. – You May Think it’s a compliment, but mention the women got back handed compliment at best. Why it must be “for her age? If it looks good, she looks good. Period.
4th Can I be your baby? – Would you ever say, “Can I be your boyfriend” to a stranger? Probably not. This is something that just happens naturally or it is explained in the “conversation”. You May be trying to be funny, but it sounds like you’re either desperate or want to be a pet!
5th Have you had botox? – Setting of any cosmetic procedure is the “Tres Gauche”. If she wants to know whether she had a job, she will tell you. As long as you think it’s hot, who cares?
6th I love Cougars. – This may sound like a compliment, but it is not. We do not want to be interested in us, because we easily fit into categories. We want to be looking for, well, us! It would be the same as the woman says, “I like athletes.” It also sounds like you’re leaving out the last part of the sentence, “I love the Cougars and I want to have sex with as many of them as possible.”
7th Did you take my picture? – Profile without a photo immediately raises a red flag. What are you hiding? So, if you ask for photos, and you do not hear back, do not write it again to see if she received them. Yes, it is not, and she is not interested. Move on.
8th I hope it’s more to you than her beauty – and we hope that the more you repeat the line someone gave you try to shake our confidence. Too many guys are used to line these days and it’s getting old.
9th Tell me something interesting about yourself – uh! Can you be more vague? Not that specific question makes you look like you have no conversational skills, and this is a big turn-off for the Cougars.
10th Call me. My number is 555-xxx-xxxx – this also makes you look desperate and not very discriminating – you’re giving your number to a complete stranger. Women want to feel special, and give your phone number without waiting to see if it still will respond to your e-mail, it feels like just a number.
Lucia from / relationship expert, columnist, author of “Lessons of Love Lucy” and host of “The Art of Love” radio show on LA Talk Radio. She has appeared on Dr. Phil, Tyra Banks Show, 60 Minutes Australia, ABC 7 news E! Fun, KTLA Morning Show and numerous radio shows across the USA, including Playboy Radio.
With over 20 years experience in the relationship market, Lucia has people of all nationalities in six cities, four countries and two continents. Her practical know-how makes her the perfect candidate to dispense relationship advice “, after all, in almost every dating dilemma she was there, done that and lived to tell about it.